Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Lesson Learned

This is what happens when slaves think they can touch themselves without permission.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

BDSM Play and Scenario Ideas

Here are some fun playtime ideas that aren't too intense for a beginner but still exciting enough for more seasoned kinksters. These lovely tidbits have been collected from various sites and submitted by friends, and put nice and neat all in one place for you. You're welcome. 
Sensation play

You probably use sensation play in your regular sexual activities and don't even realize it. How many times have you had her leave her stockings on, simply because you love the way they feel? Or stroked his cock with your silky panties?
You can use sensation play in D/s scenes too! Start by blindfolding your partner (and tying him or her down, if you like), then subjecting him or her to a wide variety of different sensations. For example, you may stroke your lover's body with ice, or drip hot wax on his or her body, or caress your lover's skin with soft fur, silk scarves, felt, feathers, coarse sandpaper (but gently!), anything with texture.

Human Sex Doll

This is a good way to explore your partner and dabble in D/s. The idea is simple: the submissive partner is a living sex toy, and allows the dominant to put him or her into any position and do anything they want. The submissive partner simply remains in whatever position the dominant places him or her into, and does not take an active role as the dominant explores the submissive. Pay attention to the reactions as you explore. This is a great way to really learn your partner's body and see what makes them tick.
A similar scenario to this is :
The Prize
In this scenario, the submissive is a dancer at an "anything goes" nightclub. As a special promotion, the club has sponsored a drawing; the winner of the drawing gets full and complete use of the stripper for an evening, and the stripper must allow the winner to do whatever he or she wants. The winner takes full advantage of the prize, using the stripper as a sex toy; the stripper must be completely obedient and allow the winner to do whatever the winner wishes, regardless of how the stripper feels about it.

Choose Your Adventure
This is a fun and devious technique that can make use of any of the other ideas here, and anything else you can think of. Make a list, without showing it to your partner, of questions that can be answered with "yes" or "no" or with multiple choice answers. Then ask your partner to answer each question, without telling your partner what the questions are.
For example, you might write down a list of questions such as "Will you be tied down?", "Will you be allowed to reach orgasm?", "Will I penetrate you anally, orally, or vaginally?", "Will you be spanked?", or whatever else strikes your fancy.
Don't let your partner see the list. Ask your partner, "Choose 1, 2, or 3," and "Choose yes or no." Write down your partner's answers, then do to your partner whatever their answers indicate. If your partner complains, you can always say "Hey, this is what you chose!"

Orgasm Denial
This is a fun, and frustrating, technique that can bring some of the spark back into sex. There are a hundred variations, but the basic idea is simple: prevent your partner from having an orgasm for a length of time (a day, two days, a week, whatever you want). You can, for example, require that your partner have sex one or more times a day, or masturbate regularly (maybe roll a pair of dice to see how many times they have to "edge" each day)  but your partner is not allowed any sexual release. Over time, the sexual tension builds up, and your partner becomes perpetually aroused.

When done over a period of several days or longer, this technique creates a very powerful level of sexual excitement. When you do finally allow your partner release, it's an extremely intense experience. Some of my subs have described it as "their minds leaving their bodies".

Home Invasion (roleplay for men to use on women)
Call your girl. Tell her you've heard that there are burglars in her neighborhood. They tie these women up, ransack their bedrooms, then have their way with their helpless victims. Talk in a sexy voice... to build anticipation and of course, because you don't want to scare the shit out of her. Wait long enough that she totally expecting it and obviously, you go over to her place wearing a burglar costume: Black shirt, black pants, leather gloves, a mask of some kind. Open the door. Tiptoe around until you find your lady, hopefully dressed to please you. You could play "chloroform" her by holding a handkerchief soaked in cheap cologne lightly over her nose and mouth for a few seconds; Or, she could obligingly faint at the very sight of you. Or you can simply seize her in your strong, manly arms. The result is the same: She gets bound and gagged in her bedroom, where she must sit / lie helplessly while you go through her dresser drawers, take her costume jewelry, rummage in her purse, and generally violate her space. Then you can violate her. After you've taken everything of value, you leave her tied up and go. (NOTE! Do NOT go out any doors that lock, period! Do NOT leave the house!!! ) Wait a few minutes. Put on a different shirt, and take off the mask. Then go back into the bedroom with "OMG! What happened!!" Untie her, take her in your arms, comfort her an any way she may desire. See how many fun ways she can show her gratitude for being rescued.


Dirty Doctor (roleplay)
This is a favorite of mine that can be done on both male and female submissives. In this game, the Dominant is the evil doctor, and the submissive is his/her helpless patient. The doctor (who for effect can be wearing rubber gloves, and if you have cash, a cheap doctor's costume) has the subject tied to his examining table, and can perform all manner of experiments on them. The Dom/me could probe the sub in various places using any one of a number of suitable laboratory instruments (this is where you break out the sex toys). Perhaps S/He might put clothespins on their nipples, to see how they respond to compression. Maybe they'll want to experiment to see how long the sub can be stimulated without being allowed to climax. The dirty doc could keep his/her sub there through the long hours of the night, conducting endless experiments to find out how many times s/he can climax, or how large a probe s/he can accept, or how deeply s/he can be penetrated, ho hard he can get, how wet she can get... you can note your results in their medical "chart" (I use a clipboard, a plain old notebook is fine too) and save it. When you play again, it's fun to see the results change! 

Write on the body
This can be fun as it adds a little sense of degradation to your playtime. You can write dirty words (such as writing "slut" or "fucktoy" across your partner's chest), or write short descriptions of what you plan to do to your partner just before you do it. You can take this a step further; go out to eat, send your partner into the restroom with a marker and tell your partner to strip, write dirty words on his or her own body, masturbate to orgasm, and come back out. Or in the morning, you can write things like "property of (your name)", "slut", "owned" on the submissive's chest, then send him or her to work that way.

Welcome Home
This is a great start to sexy evening, and practice D/s at the same time. When the submissive is away, perhaps at work or at the store, take a brown paper bag and place a set of restraints (wrist cuffs, or the like), or a blindfold, or both, in it. Maybe a certain piece of lingerie that you want them to wear would be fun too. Set the paper bag near the bedroom door (or on the porch, inside the front door, anywhere it will definitely be seen!), and tape a sheet of paper with instructions on it on the door. The sheet should instruct the submissive to strip completely, open the bag, and put on the restraints/cuffs/blindfold, or to dress in the outfit, before opening the door. The submissive is not allowed through the door until he or she is properly prepared. The anticipation heightens arousal, as well as practicing the Dom/sub mindset of control and following orders. 


Monday, June 13, 2011

Cock and Ball Bondage Tutorial II

Good morning, dear readers, I am back to share another fun cock and ball bondage tutorial! This one is simple and pretty, and has lots of options.

Remember to apply powder to absorb any excess moisture and help the ropes slide easily (this helps prevent pinching). 

Make a simple overhand knot in the MIDDLE of your rope (as always, I used 5/32poly cord).

Slip the knot over the cock and balls and pull to a comfortable tightness.
Take the right side of the rope and lay it across the cock to the left.

Lay the left hand rope across the TOP of the right hand rope (the one you just layed across)...

and bring it down UNDER the cock.

Bring it up and over, feeding the cord through the newly-created loop.

Pull to tighten to a snug yet comfortable tightness.

Experienced riggers or macrame artists may recognize this as a square knot. Essentially, you are simply wrapping the cock in a basic square knot. More knots and hitches can be seen in my blog entry Knowing the Ropes II - basic Bondage Knots.

Repeat this knot again, this time starting on the opposite side.
Continue making the knots until you reach the end of the penis.

I will say, this is much easier and looks much nicer on a HARD cock, but we were so busy fussing with taking the photos, we killed the "mood" a little. That's ok though, we got it figured out for you, readers.
Now you can use the remaining rope for a nice little leash to keep your naughty slave where he belongs.
Or, feeling a little more evil? 

Put the loose ends through the ring on the slave collar.

Secure with a couple of half-hitches....

and wrap the excess neatly around the cord (this is called a barrel roll or barrel tie, and looks awesome!)

Now have fun! Tease or torture to your heart's content.

Friday, June 10, 2011

Cock and Ball Bondage Tutorial

I finally found the time to put together the photo tutorial I have been promising for so long. I do apologize for keeping ya'll hanging, but situations arise that have priority over internet fun, so please forgive me, and enjoy this step by step tutorial for fun, safe, and stimulating cock and ball bondage.

The first step I always do is

Sorry, that gave me a chuckle.

I like to dust the genitals with
powder to help the ropes slide easier and prevent pinching. 

Now, down to business. For cock and ball bondage I use
5/16 poly cord. I do not recommend using anything thinner, as the thinner twines and strings can easily cut off circulation, or even cut the skin. I got a nice neat skein of this 5/16 cord at Lowes for $2. Be safe, not cheap. $2 is a small price to pay to avoid accidentally castrating yourself. 

Tie a simple overhand knot (at the end of your rope, not the middle) around the base of the cock and balls.

Slide the loop around so the knot is under the balls, and pull to tighten to a snug and comfortable tightness. Remember to always
slide your finger under the knot when tightening to avoid pinching the delicate skin of the scrotum, as shown below. 

Wrap the rope neatly and snugly around the cock and balls as shown. Make sure the rope lays smooth and flat, any twists or overlaps can cause discomfort and frankly, just looks like shit.

Bring the rope down between the balls and

cross over behind the scrotum as shown below. 

Do the same on the other side, bringing the rope down under the balls and crossing over in back.

 Wrap as many times as you like. The more wraps around the balls you use, the tighter it will squeeze them. I like to use three, I feel it is the perfect amount of pressure without causing too much discomfort. We don't wanna have to unwrap it right away because the balls are too tight, right?

Bring the rope back around to the top, lift the cock and begin wrapping around the penis only. Wrap snugly, taking care to keep the ropes smooth and flat. 

Sorry, this pic came out kinda blurry, but you get the idea.

When you come to the end of the rope (or the end of the cock, whichever comes sooner), leave the last loop slack enough to tie two simple overhand knots as shown below. Pull to tighten.

Trim or tuck the loose end.

You now have a beautifully bound cock, leaving the balls and head exposed and available for all kinds of delightful fun. Lick, kiss, nibble, pinch, flick, tap, slap, smack, or one of my personal favorites, tickle with an ostrich plume!

Enjoy applying these tips to your own bondage methods! Remeber to play safe, sane and consensual, and keep your safety scissors closeby!!!

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Seriously? (*updated regularly*)

A little more of the ridiculous solicitation conversations I have had....

From: dumbasaboxofrocks        
10/23/11 1:04 PM   
hey im about a half hour from s******. Can i come worship your feet for 20 bucks?


dude : hi
lady.julianna : hello
dude : how are you
lady.julianna : I am well thank you
lady.julianna : how many people did you copy and paste the same message to?
dude : just a few i am sorry i sent it you you
lady.julianna) : Did you get many replies?
dude : yea a few said they were out of town
lady.julianna : oh thats a shame
lady.julianna : where do you live
dude : i am from *****
lady.julianna : oh that's right, you said that
dude : i am at the ***** this week for job traning
lady.julianna : Are you going to be working in *****? Or just training here?
dude : our home office is up here i ll be working in binghamton
lady.julianna : Then why are you looking for someone in S*****?
dude : something to do while i am up here
lady.julianna : I see
lady.julianna : well unfortuantely I am looking for something more substantial than a one time/one week thing. Sorry
dude : i am kinda looking to acualy have some experences
lady.julianna : Thats all well and good but you live in ******
lady.julianna : why dont you look there? They have their own kink group and everythign
dude : there is nothing ever going on
lady.julianna : at the *****n Kink Society?! Yes there is, they are very active
lady.julianna : They have all kinds of events posted, including a halloween party
dude : i have been kinda scared to go out in my own town
lady.julianna : well that's not something I can help you with
lady.julianna : i love the list of excuses though, thats cute
dude : i dont mean to make a list
lady.julianna : well first you said they dont do anything
lady.julianna : which is untrue
lady.julianna : then it was somethign else
dude : so i brought most of my cock toys with me i live with parents thats the real problem i cant do much
lady.julianna : you live with your parents, so you cant go to a party?
dude : they always ask were i am going
lady.julianna : "to a party"
lady.julianna : you're a grown man, act like one
dude : i am a sissy
lady.julianna : well again, I am looking for someone local
dude : oh k
lady.julianna : your best bet is to join ****** Kink Society. Good luck!
dude : thanks
dude : looks like you have tons of toys
lady.julianna : I have a dungeon
dude : do you know anyone else in the area that would be intrested ?
lady.julianna : in a one time thing with someone they havent met? no. everyone wants to meet several times before playing. thats just standard
dude : i would love to meet some one i mean i can drive up here
lady.julianna : well you sent out a ton of emails
lady.julianna : was anyone interested?
dude : the ones that were out of town
lady.julianna : or so they say
lady.julianna : anyway even if i DID know someone, I wouldnt "set someone up" with someone I dont know, thats just not safe
dude : oh k


Is there a good sub out there? One with sense in his head? Please?!
 bitchwithballs on 6/13/11 at 3:13 PM:

Hello Mistress I read the entire profile. How do i become more to you?

LadyJulianna on 6/13/11 at 3:15 PM:

If you read the entire profile, you would have seen the instructions at the bottom. 

bitchwithballs on 6/13/11 at 3:16 PM:

I did, I'm just lazy.

on 6/13/11 at 3:37 PM:

umm... ok.

Well you have a nice day then.

Fulton, New York

hello my names **** im 20 years old and im into cock and ball torture :)
Lady_Julianna 32F
Syracuse, New York

hello my name is Julianna, and I am into damn near everything.
Fulton, New York

do you kick men in the balls?
Lady_Julianna 32F
Syracuse, New York

I've been known to be a fan of ball busting
Fulton, New York

i bet you could make me scream ;)
 Lady_Julianna 32F
Syracuse, New York

I am sure I could.

Fulton, New York

how bout i let you own my balls?
Lady_Julianna 32F
Syracuse, New York

lol wow, own your balls after exchanging a handful of short messages, eh?
No reply (not that I expected one. ROFL)
Clueless 6/2/11 at 12:16 AM:
Hello Mistress, I am looking to be used and exploited by a beautiful Mistress. I can only do 24/7 live in as I don't have a car and cannot come to see you as regularly as you would probably want, and I can't host because I live with my mom. I have physical restrictions that stop me from doing any hard work, such as lifting, heavy cleaning and yard work, Mistress but I would be willing to serve you in any way you desire. I have been laid off from my job for many months, so I have plenty of free time to serve you with no interruptions. Please reply.

LadyJulianna on 6/2/11 at 12:44 AM:
This is a joke, right?
LeonardoRetardo 6/1/11 at 11:44 PM:
You're hot.

LadyJulianna on 6/1/11 at 11:47 PM:

LeonardoRetardo 6/2/11 at 12:04 AM:
Can I meet you?

LadyJulianna on 6/2/11 at 12:09 AM:
No, but thanks.

LeonardoRetardo 6/2/11 at 12:11 AM:
You have cam?

LadyJulianna on 6/2/11 at 12:17 AM:
This is a D/s personals site. Perhaps you are looking for cam4.com or something of that nature?

LeonardoRetardo 6/2/11 at 12:23 AM:
You're so hot. When can I meet you?

LadyJulianna on 6/2/11 at 12:40 AM:
That would be a big fat NEVER but thanks. Enjoy the block bin.

*****on 6/1/11 at 9:45AM
may i please worship yo?

LadyJulianna on 6/1/11 at 12:22 PM:
If you take the time to write an appropriate introductory letter, maybe.

*****on 6/1/11 at 12:41 PM:
Hello, my name is M******. I have a lot of tattoos and am very tall. I also have a beard. Let me worship you.

LadyJulianna on 6/1/11 at 6:54 PM:
um no. but thanks.


shitforbrains on 5/15/11 at 5:55 PM:

Hello There Lady Julianna. My name is slave mike i had to write to you after reading your profile. I have been a total service slave for along time well actully i started out as a part time service slave until i was laid off from my job of ten years as a maintenance technician so i decided to join this site a few days ago and wanting to become a fulltime owned service slave. I have recieve a few emails from Dommes and one Dom/Domme couple that want to meet and talk which i will start doing this week but i am looking for the right fit and i can tell you know how to treat a slave. I am a true service slave that has the skills to do anything you need done and have all the tools for any job i love housework doing all your chores all your yardwork and of Lady Julianna the main purpose to serve you.I will obey all commands no matter what they are love to be used abused and degraded and just treated like a slave and live in a basement and love to be tied up and gagged when you are not in need of me. To me slaves of today have no clue what it means to be a total service slave. I am old school and do know what it takes to be the best and i love being a slave. If you would like to talk please let me know. I would love to talk to you. Thank you.

LadyJulianna on 5/15/11 at 6:04 PM:

where are you located

shitforbrains on 5/15/11 at 6:09 PM:

Hello again Lady Julianna. Right now i am living on the ny/ct border in my apartment but i have to the end of the month to decide if i am going to stay there.

LadyJulianna on 5/15/11 at 6:19 PM:

ahh i see. what are you expecting to do?

shitforbrains on 5/15/11 at 6:29 PM:

Well i am hoping to be owned 24/7 as a total service slave.

LadyJulianna on 5/15/11 at 6:36 PM:

you hope to accomplish that in two weeks?

shitforbrains on 5/15/11 at 7:12 PM:

Lady Julianna if it is a great fit and i meet the right one i am sure to accomplish this in two weeks. I am not a young kid that has no idea what he is doing thinking he is a slave because the title sounds cool I am a mature guy wellspoken neat and have many skills. I am not looking for a young Domme to serve. Just a Domme who has knowledge and hows how to treat a total service slave. I would be able to tell five minutes after talking if it would work.

LadyJulianna on 5/15/11 at 7:55 PM:

I dont know, babe. Any Domme worth their salt has enough sense NOT to move someone into their home after only knowing them for two weeks.

shitforbrains on 5/15/11 at 8:55 PM:

Sorry about that Lady Julianna i was on the phone most people who are professionals you can usally tell if the person has a few screws loose i can give referenaces and have been doing this for along time and have been in peoples houses for days.

LadyJulianna on 5/15/11 at 11:18 PM:

Well good luck sweetie, I hope you find someone. For a long term live-in situation I like to know someone much longer than two weeks, for security reasons. Anyone can dummy up a reference. I'm not saying YOU would do that, I'm just saying. I'm extremely thorough, I require background checks, medical releases in case they get hurt while in my care... Anyway... :) I hope you connect with someone wonderful.

shitforbrains on 5/15/11 at 11:29 PM:

Lady Julianna i acutally just got off the phone with a couple that i am meeting at lunchtime With all that stuff you require thats more than they do when you go for a goverment job. I have never heard of all that pro dommes do not even have security and a lot of them do sessions from there homes. I wont have any problems by the end of the week i will have found the right fit. I guess i should say good luck in your seach.

LadyJulianna on 5/16/11 at 3:05 PM:

Wow. Anyone who lets someone come LIVE in their home who they have only known two weeks in STUPID. Point blank. A ProDomme doing an hour session in her home is a lot different than inviting someone to live with her. No Domme with any sense in her head is gonna let someone move in with her after only two weeks.
And I don't need you to wish ME luck, I get over 100 emails a week from men and women requesting to be my slaves. And not a single one of them have ever had a problem with providing me with the information I require.
So you have fun with whatever "Domme" is stupid enough to move you in.